Letting Go. Trust the Process.

Pain.

Addiction hurts. Not just the addict, but the families and loved ones too. It is important to call it what it is. Pain. It does not go away on its own. It can sit and fester for years, as well as take its toll on you and those around you without you even realizing it is happening. Break through denial, grief and trauma, by identifying the pain.

Acceptance.

Letting Go of our loved ones is hard, but when we can let go, and accept them for who they are, we can start healing. Letting go does not mean giving up on them. Letting go does not mean being mean or vengeful. Letting go truly just means, accepting the here and now, knowing that you do not have the answer for their problems today.

Boundaries.

Instead of crossing into their hula-hoop, it is important to identify solutions for you, not for them. Instead of rescuing them because of your own anxiety about the situation, what else would work for you? How can you stay in your own lane and manage to feel better. Does it mean take a breath? Go for a walk? Meditate? Find a solution for YOU to be in this moment, in your own hula-hoop, in your own life.